Being Connected to self

We need to be connected to our being in order to be humans. We are spiritual beings, having a human experience in our bodies.

We have been living in our heads and ego, pretending to be separate from others and the world we live in. It’s impossible to be in the ego’s mind and feel or express love in any form, to feel empathy for anyone or anything.

There is no escaping depression and anxiety without our biological chains of family  for very long.

Our heart is where we find the answers to any questions we may have.

Here are some guidelines in finding balance for your experience of life for the rest of this year:

Spiritual Our spirit is what we stem from as a person and as an individual. It’s what make us unique. Being connected with it, is what makes us human. Our love and empathy for an other human and people in general, can tell us our level of connection that we have with ourselves.
If we can see the beauty in the next person we see or the next living thing, we are in a place of love and connected with our spirit.
The practice of spirituality is what leads us to understanding who we are and our purpose in life. It connects us to every living thing throughout the universe. The more connected we are to our spiritual being is the less we see separation from others and the life we want to create. Places, people and things have no boundaries for us.
That know sense within us is our faith. When our faith is present, doubt is far away.

Health We have physical, mental and spiritual health as a human being. In my opinion and experience, health takes priority over everything in a human body and life. Everything that concerns us, starts and ends in health.

Personal Growth Most of us are not living. If our home, job, possessions and religion and the children and partner are our main objectives in our lives, then we are only existing.
Gaining understanding for the natural world we live in and the different people places, things and experiences within the outer world is a part of growing. Reading books on subjects of interest to us is the beginning of personal. Doing new things and having new experiences is growing and it’s mind expanding.

Fun and Recreational Goals Sports, travelling, singing, dancing, painting, drawing, writing, gardening, making and designing things with our hands because we love it, is recreational. Doing these things is also called creativity. They give us a sense of individuality. They were the things we did as a child, they were the things we dreamt of doing, read books on, practiced, they were our gifts they were our world away from others, they gave of joy, they expanded our imaginations.
These are the things we do as adults to centre ourselves in a busy world and gives us the sense of purpose, refreshing our minds to achieve our bigger objectives and gives life more purpose.

Relationships Mammals have a need to relate in their individual groups. It’s a psychological part of our make up. Depression and anxiety is a side effect of not having healthy, strong and lasting relationships, in an individual.
The more technology develops, the wider the gap of relationships grow and the more widespread depression and anxiety spreads within families, communities and countries.
The more aware we are of our own personal growth, the higher our score will be on the relationships scale and the less likely that we are to be severally affected by depression and anxiety. The act of speaking with people every day is not a void of depression or anxiety. Being able to relate with at least one person, on any subject that the mind thinks of, is an important and crucial relationship to have today.

Family These are the biologically related group that we are from and can be the group of people we grew up with. This is our first community that we belong to and should hold our strongest bond. The loosening and breakage of this bond will most definitely create depression and anxiety in all individuals. This is a subconscious link that forms personalities in every human and even being apart from this group from very a very young age, does not separate the link. The more someone feels that they do not belong to any social, professional or family group, is the more severe that individual will be affected by depression and anxiety.

Career and Business This is obvious for most people, an area of financial income. This should be of an area of interest that can be done without strain or stress on a person’s values and enjoyment. If enjoyed, it will not feel like work and should contribute to our personal growth. The opportunity will show up when one is aligned with their values and goals. Anything else will drain one’s physical and mental energies. Hard work does not mean stressful. When it stops being a learning process that stretches our comfort zone, it is time for change.
When one finds themselves in leadership positions that they often do without much focus for most job experiences, it is time to start a business in the area they see themselves offering more value to others than they can in a job.

Money This is a topic less discussed or taught in the correct manner. Money is energy and it is aligned with everyone based on their internal beliefs around the topic. If one sees it as lacking that is how it flows for them and if one sees it as abundant, that is how it flows in one’s life until there is a mind shift around it.
It is an important part of life and there is enough for the seven billion plus individuals on earth to be a millionaire all at the same time. The opportunities are available to everyone if they are open to the possibility of having it.
The Robert Kiyosaki board game is one of the best references when it comes to learning about personal and business finances. The foundation starts with “Rich Dad Poor Dad” book, it is also available in a comics form for children. The board game is also available online and free to join and play with participants from anywhere online.

My Life Goals Structure

Spiritual  ………………………………  0  1   2  3  4  5  6   7  8  9 10 = 2 (03/01/18)

Health …………………………………..  0  1   2  3  4  5  6   7  8  9 10 = 3 (03/01/18)

Money …………………………………..  0  1   2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9 10 = 2 (03/01/18)

Family …………………………………..  0  1   2  3  4  5  6  7  8 9  10 = 4 (03/01/18)

Fun & Recreational ……………..  0  1   2  3  4  5  6  7  8 9  10 = 1 (03/01/18)

Career & Business ……………….  0  1   2  3  4  5  6  7  8 9  10 = 6 (03/01/18)

Personal Growth ………………….  0  1  2  3  4  5  6  7  8  9 10 = 3 (03/01/18)

Relationships ………………………..  0  1  2  3  4  5  6 7  8  9 10 = 2 (03/01/18)


From the goals listed above, on the scale of 1 to 10 for each, what is your score?

From 8 to 10 is the ideal purposeful and happy life

From 5 to 7 is good and a place of more ease.

From 3 to 4 means we are aware of these areas on the scale where the search for  meaning is the quest.

From 0 to 2 is poor and in need of focus and assistance. Isolation, loss and illnesses becomes the highlight of life.

Awareness is key in self development. Once aware, improvement habits take over and progress is made effortlessly.

Holding pictures in the mind, of an end goal with actions towards that picture creates desired outcome when unwavering trust is applied.

We would have less stressful lives today if we score from 5 to 7 and upward.

(more details to follow)

© IMA 2018.

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  1. So pleased that you recently stopped by my blog. My “trauma” was almost certainly a lot more “plain vanilla” than yours as it was basically from poverty in the American South and the resulting alienation. I admire your courage.

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    1. You are most welcome 😊. And thank you for your kind words. I always thought of my journey as not a big thing until I spoke with new friends who thinks I need to share my experiences with others, so here I am starting. I think we can only get stronger from them and learn the lessons they were there to teach us too.


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